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Learn
Heartbreak often brings a harsh inner voice: 'I ruined it,' 'I am not enough,' 'Nobody will want me.' Self-compassion means answering that voice the way you would answer a dear friend. It has three parts: noticing that you are hurting, remembering that many people go through this too, and offering yourself some warmth. Research suggests self-compassion may help people cope better, and it does not make you weak. It may feel awkward at first, and that is normal. Even a flat, mumbled kind sentence counts. You are practising a new habit of speaking, not performing a feeling you do not have.
Practice
Take a kind-words break and say or write one sentence to yourself.
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Reflect
Reflect
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This program is for everyday heartbreak. If low mood lasts most of the day, every day, for more than two weeks, or you cannot eat, sleep or work, please see a doctor or counsellor. If a partner or ex controls, frightens, stalks or hurts you, that is abuse and it is not your fault. If you are in danger, call 112, and reach out to a domestic abuse service near you. If you have thoughts of ending your life, call Tele MANAS on 14416 or 112 now.